Living fully, part 3
How often have you been told you’re being too emotional – especially if you’re a woman? Ever have those days that you can barely hold back tears…. or days when you can’t stop smiling?
Dr. Lynn Rossy taught that emotional flexibility is the ability to “bounce back” from tough situations. She said that we have to think about our emotional energy as a limited resource; meaning, we have to replenish that resource as we use it. This is a different way for me to think about emotions, but it really makes sense.
Start by asking yourself this question: “If I weren’t afraid, I would ____.” Does fear keep you from trying new things? Or worse, does it keep you from doing things you love? Challenge yourself, step by step, in these areas of low confidence.
But be aware that fear is an emotion that will deplete your “emotional reserves,” so to speak. Be sure to treat yourself. Rossy suggests taking yourself on a date once a week. This is something as simple as blocking out 30 minutes to read uninterrupted, doing some shopping, go to a movie… whatever you enjoy that can be some you time.
I know I have a really hard time with, well, life, when I don’t have some “me” time in my week. Hello being a newlywed? It’s certainly been a transition for us to navigate quality time together – and apart.
Lastly, Rossy gave one more really great suggestion: At the end of each day, write down your happiest moment of that day. After 2 weeks of this, look back at your list. You will probably see some consistencies, and these are the things you should devote more priority to.
Some more activities to “emotionally recharge” include:
- Deep breathing.
- Read a good book.
- Visit or call a close friend.
- Here’s a great one: take a nap!
- Listen to some music or sing yourself (be aware of neighbors :) )
- Take a bath, massage your feet, or go get a massage.
- Be creative! Write, draw, paint, etc.
- Spend some time praying or meditating.
- Do a calming activity, such as Pilates, yoga, swimming or going for a walk.
- Organize your room, closet, office, etc. Give unwanted things away.
- Laugh! Watch a comedy, read a funny book or talk to a friend who can make you laugh.
Don’t forget to do your “homework.”